!! Introduction - READ THIS PLEASE !!

Please read the introduction if you have triggers to be concerned about.

If there’s something in a resource page that needs a warning, the warning will be up at the top before the break. If I make a mistake and miss a warning you need, please contact me on Mastodon. Let me know the page address and which warning I missed and I’ll fix it as soon as I can.


I’m not an expert in any of this stuff but the links I’ve provided were helpful to me. So maybe they’ll help you.

In some cases, I’m giving you instructions I wrote myself because no one else bothered (one of my life’s biggest frustrations). Sorry in advance. If you’re trying to do the exact thing I was trying to do then it’s at least more information than you had.

Right now this list doesn’t have much in it. I have a years of links to go through and this is a work in progress. If you look through this and go “Oh my god are you serious this is a lot of stuff” … I am so serious. The amount of unsorted resources I have is at least 100x times what’s in here right now.

If you have suggestions, corrections, or requests, please contact me on Mastodon.

Conflict management

Note: This is adapted from a previous work I wrote and published in another location. Western culture likes to say “you need to use conflict management” or “you need to use coping skills” or whatever the thing is. Western culture doesn’t give you those things, though. We’ve got all the time in the world for making people feel bad about not using those skills but no time for teaching the very same skills.